How To Journal For Conflict Resolution

1. No situation is too big or too small to learn from. If you are frustrated the situation is worth looking at. I am not suggesting that you journal everything that happens to you. When a situation occurs and you can’t get it out of your mind then that’s a big sign that you need to look closely at the issues involved.

People make the mistake of always looking at things in the same way over and over and they don’t get anything new from the situation except more stuck in their own perceptions. This prevents learning. The journal questions need to explore the experience from many angles to maximize awareness. At the end of the cycle the very least you come away with is compassion, acceptance, and detachment.

2. You will make mistakes. You will handle things badly and you will cringe as you think back on certain life events. This is a really good thing! If everything happens for learning and growth, then doesn’t it make sense that you will have some mistakes along the way? Rejoice in knowing that you have moved past the place you were. Admit to yourself, and others, if the issue is still in play, that you would handle things differently if it were to happen again. Take the opportunity to practice what you have learned.

Do not take on guilt, which is an e-motion, over what you have done as this only makes the situation much more challenging and consuming to deal with. The true test of forgiveness is in how you treat your self. Guilt is a favorite ego emotion which we all know causes control issues, defensiveness, and avoidance.

3. Once you have assessed where you e-motion is; it may not be easy to release. The fact that you cannot take three deep breaths, snap your fingers, and wish it away is okay. Having e-motion does not in any way make you less spiritual or aware. You are in the physical and as a result will be faced with these challenges. The key is how you deal with the emotion. Can you be aware enough to isolate understand and then unravel the emotion?

4. Remember that e-motion is the last great challenge of a master before he or she ascends. As you build awareness, your base cellular frequency, or vibratory rate, increases. This creates a very volatile situation for any e-motion you hold as it is pushed to the front of your conscious mind.

If you do not understand the process you may actually feel that you are falling away from awareness and give up. This is something we beg you not to do. The faster your energy flows, the bigger the blockages seem. The higher the frequency of your energy, the more volatile the e-motion becomes because the frequencies (fast vs slow thick and heavy) are so incompatible. This is why being consciously aware of what is pulling at you, so that you can cut it free, becomes so important. You must be committed to the process before you attempt to speed it up. You must be willing to know thyself in love, acceptance, and wonder. Stay on your path, do not measure your progress, just be on your path.

5. Judgment is a process of assessing blame and e-motion. It will distort your views on everything and it is a very toxic substance because it traps and holds the e-motion that created it. It is like a big brick wall, once you set it in place nothing gets through it.

In my experience, when I know absolutely that I am right, when I feel justified, when I am happy to see someone get what is coming to them, I am so wrong! It is a signal to me that I have learned squat and need to revisit an issue again. I am caught in my own judgmental trap.

6. Competition means there will be a winner and a loser. Competition at this density is a total ego event. It comes when you are lacking self-love. The goal is to grow together through self awareness. Simply asking, “What learning can be done here?” is an excellent way to start. It sets the heart on the path of accomplishment instead of the path of struggle.

7. You have done your journaling, figured out to the best of your ability what everyone’s thing is, now all you have to do is educate them, right?

Wrong! The purpose of looking at what motivates another soul is simply for you to find understanding, compassion, and acceptance for that person in their cycle. This allows you to let go of your issues with them. You can allow them to be what they choose to be without reservation.

A master will answer a question with another question. Why is that? They are not trying to keep their truth for themselves, if they thought it would help they would preach relentlessly night and day to free as many souls as possible from this Hell we have created.

The master has enough wisdom to avoid the pitfalls of a young novitiate. The master knows that only when you are ready to learn, is learning possible. What you discover for yourself you will accept. We do not appreciate or heed the advice that comes freely. Unless someone asks, keep your insights to yourself or else risk turning a self rewarding event into an ego reinforcing one.

They say the mark of a mature soul is knowing there’s a problem out there somewhere and foolishly thinking you can solve it. He rushes out into the battlefield with all of his energies intent on forcing change. Sometimes he is successful. Usually he is burnt up by the very emotions that drive him.

An old soul sits beneath a tree at peace with the outer world while focused within and watches wearily as the mature soul runs past him to save the world. The old soul is tired of playing those games and has chosen acceptance instead.

Many young and mature souls have created great change battling their emotions in a public forum. It is a cycle which contributes to the growth of many. However, such a soul will not even recognize other perceptions or paths of growth until he has burnt himself out. He is, in effect, an enslaved prisoner to his e-motion missing out on everything else.

8. To empower yourself is to act. In the end what you do about anything should be a reflection of how your higher self feels you should act. If you do nothing or you do everything the point is, where did the call to act originate? We let go of the e-motion so that we can find clarity and silence from the lower energies.

We have a higher self which understands our divine purpose and our cycle of growth. When you choose to listen to the soft yet strong voice which resonates from the seat of your soul, you will always make the best decision for everyone involved, always. There are no exceptions to this rule. You need to understand, however, that you will still be guided towards learning as that’s part of your path.

Remember that you can learn effortlessly if you choose. It is not the truth that chews us up, it is our resistance to it.

9. Always know your intent! Where is the ego in the choices you are making? Are you trying to protect someone or avoid something? Do you want to win? It can be difficult to follow your heart especially when the choices you feel you must make could hurt the people that you love.

Remember that if it is not my issue, I will not react. Everything is connected and from one event comes the change that sets us up for greatness. When you sacrifice yourself for another you are essentially saying that you have no faith in their abilities to deal with their issues. You are choosing to take an egoist control over the direction they are traveling. Unless you are dealing with a small child, shame on you!

Change can be a positive thing when you are loving, caring, nurturing, and compassionate. Give the people around you time to process for themselves what is happening. Communicate openly and help with the process if you can, work together as a team. This is all that is expected of you. Their reaction is up to them and is a reflection of them.

If your decision and your intent come from your higher self, or the heart; if you take action in harmony and balance; rather than defensiveness and control; then you will take the higher path.

10. Every time you process energy through thought action or voice you choose. Will you honor your ego energies making them stronger and thicker within you? Will you honor the soul elements and refine your energies and frequency? Will you move towards your self or away from it?

Here are some journal questions to get you started:

What is the situation?

Who are the other key players?

How would each of these people describe the situation from their point of view?

What is the goal of each person in this situation?

What is motivating each person?

Who do I have the biggest issue with in this situation?

How would I describe this person?

How do I have compassion for this person?

What can I like and respect about this person?

What are they stuck on? What is their e-motional charge?

How do they lack vision?

What soul elements are they lacking that would bring them harmony and balance to this situation?

What am I stuck on emotionally in this situation?

What am I stuck on emotionally with this person?

What is my goal in this situation?

Why is this important?

Where do I lack insight, understanding, and compromise?

Why is this so important to me?

How can I resolve this in a way that honors and respects myself and the people that I am dealing with?

What must I accept to resolve this?

How can the soul elements help me finds acceptance?

What ego needs can be surrendered?

What do I feel I need to do to resolve this?

How must I conduct myself so that, regardless of outcome, I can let this go and move on without any e-motion?


One thought on “How To Journal For Conflict Resolution

  • October 29, 2017 at 6:07 PM

    wow, great article, lots of useful and helpful advices. I have never thought of journaling, I normal externalize my feelings by speaking to my husband. But sometimes there are things that I would rather keep to myself. I enjoyed reading your article and will definitely start journaling in the future. I also love the questions you listed. Thank you for sharing!


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